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"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own."
Robert Heinlein

When you love another, her happiness is essential to your own. If she is not happy, it is difficult for you to find joy. This is basically what Robert Heinlein is saying. Find ways to bring joy into her life. Look for every opportunity to make her smile or laugh. Learn to find joy in that smile or laugh. This is the kind of joy that keeps a marriage firing on all cylinders.

"The course of true love never did run smooth."
William Shakespeare

Shakespeare is saying there will be some tumultuous times in any relationship. However, you must remember the old adage “there is a thin line between love and hate.” If you do not care for someone, it is less likely they will offend your sensibilities. The more you care for someone, however, the more any slight will hurt. A slight from someone you care about is much harder to accept without some sense of emotional damage or anger. Hence, “...true love never did run smooth.”

"If music be the food of love, play on."
William Shakespeare

Basically, the quote is saying, whatever helps love grow and mature needs to be the center point of your relationship. Being kind and thoughtful is the food of love. Being respectful is the food of love. Being empathetic is the food of love, etc. Think about the quality of your relationship and what you can do to improve where improvement is necessary. Always look for the food that nourishes your relationship.

"Love is not love that alters when it alteration finds."
William Shakespeare

Here, Shakespeare is saying when you love another you accept that individual for who he or she is. Love does not want to change a person even when there are places where you can see improvement is possible. If the true nature of the individual was evident when you feel in love, there is no need to change the qualities that made you fall in love. If you are already seeking to change the individual sharing your life, there are some problems in your relationship that need to be worked out before you can surrender offer your heart.

"They do not love that do not show their love."
William Shakespeare

Truer words were never spoken. If you do not express your love, there is usually no love to express. There is a difference between being infatuated or wanting someone and loving someone. When you love another, you want to express that love in various ways. For most women, the little things you do to express your love are the most important: buying her a flower, remembering her birthday, washing the dishes, going to the market. These efforts may seem inconsequential to you, but to her it is an expression of your love. Remember, a person must feel loved to be truly loved. If you cannot show your adoration, it probably isn’t there.

I will leave you with one last quote that requires no explanation.

"I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it's the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It's probably the most important thing in a person."
Audrey Hepburn

If you make her smile you can win her heart. If you make her laugh you can keep it.